Friends, Priorities & Business

I’ve been doing this blogging thing wrong.

So far, I’ve blindly written and publishing posts that mostly have very little value.


Spending a lot of time writing many articles, I’ve accomplished over 100 visitors during the first few days of this blog, and while that is definitely an accomplishment, the direction where I’m headed has gotten muddy, and gets muddier the more articles I write.

Maybe that’s why they say niche down.

The future is uncertain, and branches start to sprout in many directions — too many, perhaps.

Maybe it’s time to cut down a few, or at least prioritize; let some grow free and mighty, but restrain others.

Maybe there isn’t a need to consciously cut down. Maybe I can just wait and see what branches naturally outgrow the others.

Being Useful

What is the internet for, if not information?

But why add the same information that others have already added?

I’m partially an academic person, as I am studying at uni, after all, and in academia it’s preferred to come up with new findings, rather than discover something that somebody else already has.

Now, I’m not a scientist, but I get it.

The thing is, to be useful in a blog you have to add something new, but it doesn’t have to be something you discovered, as long as it’s something that isn’t easily accessible already.

Gathering Resources

A lot of resources are available online, but not all of them are in one place.

Just compiling them into one blog post could count as useful.

Easier said than done, because copying isn’t good.

Sharing with Friends

Drinking chamomile tea and listening to ASMR (the video below — one of my favourite ASMRtists at the time), I think about the branches of this blog.

Learning about blogging, I hear a lot that you have to treat the blog as a business, so I got really into that aspect, and it demotivated me.

So, I took a long walk with Lady and thought about how to treat the blog. She was cute and hyper.


The other day I bought a second domain, for the niche site that we’re going to try creating.

It’s secret for now, and even though it’s perfect, it also made me sad. The details are irrelevant, but the main cause was the whole business aspect.

It’s too draining. The thought of doing it all brought back some sad memories that almost made me want to quit (everything makes me want to quit everything — I wanted to quit the Master’s degree program before it even started), but most of all I want to quit quitting.

Walking brought me back to a state of — somewhat — relaxation, but it wasn’t until I got home that I had the main epiphany.

I have no IRL friends but…

Feeling useless to the vastness of the internet where all information probably already exists, I’ve been wondering what I can possibly add to it.

But I realized, it doesn’t have to be that big. I can just pretend that I have a small group of friends and share something with them.

Friends aren’t always interested in things I have to say, but that’s irrelevant, because I can pretend.

And speaking of pretend friends…

My writing dreams

Where did they go?

Ever since I started this blog, I haven’t given myself time to work on my writing (fiction). Why?

Leaving a Blog behind VS Leaving a Story behind

It comes down to this.

What do I want to create with my life?

A story that I can feel proud of, or a blog where I try to give people the information I think they want?


Creating a niche blog might be equivalent to writing a novel. If I have to choose one, I pick the latter. Without question, so that’s what I should be doing.

Priorities — Things I Love

Time isn’t the main thing. It’s the only thing.

— Miles Davis

I like blogging, and I like writing (I know, they’re both writing, technically), but I love my fictional world.

I also love the life that I’m planning out with my “husband”.

But where on earth does writing blog posts for views fit into that? Nowhere.

So I’ll make sure to only do what I love. I don’t have time for anything else.

Well, I have a few articles planned out that are kinda tedious to do, but I know that the result will be worth it, because it’s something I would like to have as a resource myself.

I also have always wanted that particular “niche” site that we’re planning, so it’s not that I’m not excited about it. I am, but I got too into it too quickly — as always.

A suggested schedule

  • Weekly: Blog post.
  • Weekly: Vlog.
  • Bi-weekly: 1 chapter of novel.
  • When I need to: Study.

Knowing I won’t follow it, I have at least written it down.

If you are a whim person, there’s not much you can do about it (I don’t know what that means).

The BWW Question

Blogging for Who and What?

(I just invented this term, so don’t copy it please).

My answers:

  • Who? — Myself, my family, my imaginary friends?
  • What? — Happiness, money, community.

Even though I don’t enjoy spending too much time with other people (take with grain of salt), I’ve always craved to belong somewhere, in some kind of community — the brief times in my life where I felt that was pretty great, but ultimately fragile and I cared too much, a lot more than the others.

Why do I find it hard to help people?

Maybe the reason is what I said above. Maybe I’m not open enough.

I have a belief deep inside me that people don’t care about the things I “have to offer”, so I translate that into: I have nothing to offer.

The question is: do I have to get past that in order to help people, or can I fake it?

Time will tell.

Taking a Breather

Wishing I had pukka tea (affiliate link), I’m watching a Japanese drama called Kyou Wa Kaisha Yasumimasu (today I’m taking time off work). It’s been a while since I watched a Japanese drama, but I found it while doing research for a potential future article, and it’s pretty good so far.

Another type of friend…

Me and J are talking about getting a dog when I get to Canada. Well, at some point. I’ve been wanting one for a long time. Sadly, my old dog died earlier this year.

Ideally it would be a cute little Maltese or Bichon type, but we’ll see — they’re pretty expensive.

With that said, I’ll end this post here and focus on the above mentioned drama to let the sadness of a lonely night ahead melt away (stupid thanksgiving).

If you are a blogger (which I think most of my visitors are) — what are your answers to the BWW Question?

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